3. Your Pals Are Enamored Too
Yeah, it rules if you have some overlap in the friend department — and it's even better if your friends (who didn't know your partner before) are now your partner's friends, or at least in their fan club. A surefire sign of happiness is that your friends adore your partner, Cecil Carter, CEO of dating app Lov, tells Bustle.
"Your friends are likely more compatible with who you are than anyone else," Carter says. "If your friends can quickly bond with your new partner as if they were one of the crew, it’s a great sign you two are compatible." Stands to reason, invoking the old transitive mathematics rule (if A = B and B = C, A = C): If your friends are compatible with you, and they're also compatible with your partner, then you and your partner should be compatible too.
4. You Fight
Shlomo Slatkin, who founded the Marriage Restoration Project with his wife, Rivka, tells Bustle. "If you are fighting with your partner, it means that he/she is precisely the one for you." Obviously this is only true to a point, and if you're settling in for your thrice-weekly fight, things are not OK. But a fight here and there is normal, and actually preferable, Slatkin says.
"Upon exploration, you will discover that the conflict you are experiencing is tailor-made for you — meaning, you will see that beneath the surface, the issues you face with your spouse trigger your own personal past hurts and issues." So they give you the opportunity to work through your issues, come out the other side and be all-around happier and healthier. "When you can work through them in a mature and conscious way, you not only repair" your relationship, but you can also "achieve personal growth and healing." Get some!